5 Reminders for When You Feel Stuck
The stagnancy of the air lately has been holding me captive, filling my heart (or mind? I’m uncertain which it is…but I’m exhausted of all enthusiasm in attempting to understand any further) with the void of unfulfilled enchantment.
What am I holding my breath for??
I haven’t been well these past few days — intellectually and sentimentally well, that is.
I find myself still on the brink of insanity, though the light seems as if coming more near as each minute passes; finally, I have allowed myself to exhale the tension of uncertainty and bewilderment.
As I set my eyes on the horizon, I find myself in need of direction.
5 Reminders for When You Feel Stuck
- The body leads
There’s a practice, which I can’t remember where I learned of it, where you take a walk — whether around the neighborhood, your house, or even figure 8’s in your room — and keep repeating to yourself I can’t walk, I can’t walk, I can’t walk…over and over.
This gets your mind into a connection with the body, in which action trumps thought every time.
When we feel stuck, most, if not all, of those roadblocks are in our mind, but if we take a look at the external, there’s no physical wall, hoop on fire to jump through, or any other hinderance keeping us from taking the next step forward.
2. Nothing is perfect, and what we choose should solely be based off of what we’d rather suffer for most
It’s easy to choose what we want when all bets are safe, when something is good/uplifting, yet we still suffer when we choose these things because everything has a cost.
Choosing what we’d rather suffer for more — the pain of staying in the same spot or the pain of taking action and persisting — helps us remain satisfied in what we choose, and even motivates us when imperfections arise, because after all, we chose to suffer this way.
3. Round out the negativity
Doing so is a nuanced perception of toxic positivity, where, instead of trying our absolute hardest with every ounce of focus we obtain to amplify the positive in our lives (which, only subconsciously amplifies the negative even more so), we see the picture before us as a whole: something negative, difficult, and challenging, but also as an opportunity.
The challenge doesn’t go away, but it becomes far less intimidating.
4. It’s more than okay to not feel okay
When we fill of guilt, shame, or irritation for not being happy, motivated, or energized all the time, we make the emotion greater.
Whereas, if we accept the moments when we don’t feel our greatest, it remains as a singular emotion, as opposed to one tied to countless others, thus creating a problem that is far more manageable and solvable in a shorter amount of time.
5. We’re not defined by our mistakes, rather by what we do thereafter
As mentioned, nothing is perfect, and that especially goes for us as human beings.
Everyone makes mistakes of all sizes, and even better news, we have the choice to fix and learn from them, which makes all the difference.
When we make a mistake and wallow in it, we tend to feel more and more identified with what we did wrong.
Though, when we attempt to fix it as much as we can and take the next steps to learn from it, we take back control of who we’re defined as, which breeds confidence, motivation, and contentment.
Perhaps I have little to no say in my fate, and any attempt to intervene any further is merely a whisper to the winds — I tried my best…and that’s what matters most, right?
I’ll let you know.
For the time being, I’ve devoted to exerting my energy elsewhere, perhaps where it’s most needed…to get me to the next step, the next minute, the next second —
originally posted Dec 1, 2023
Today, on this vibrant April afternoon, I wanted to let you know…it is the try that matters most, not merely how — whether amidst a weight of fear, humiliation, or doubt, but what you do regardless of their presence.
I believe in you, and I hope you feel similar towards yourself as well. ❤
